It's that time of year.  Holiday music is everywhere we turn, malls and grocery stores are adorned and glowing, and you've already tweaked your gift giving list twenty seven times.  Let's take time to remember that the holidays are a special time to spend with family and reflect on your own personal heritage.  It's fun (and easy) to get caught up in the materialism-side of the holidays, but it's especially important to instill in our children the true purpose of our traditions and the passing down of generations.

Don't get me wrong, I'm all for shopping, gift wrapping, and baking – but my husband and I had a personal awakening two years ago when we celebrated the first night of Hannukah.  As we light the first candle on our Menorah, sang our ceremonial songs, and gladly distributed gifts to our three children, my husband received a phone call that interrupted our joyous mood.  His paternal grandfather whom he had a close relationship with – died right then, on the first night of Hannukah.  We continued allowing our young children to bask in the delight of their gifts, but the true message of the holidays rang true in our hearts.  We lost a link in our chain – a connection to our previous generation and heritage – and a dear family member.

This holiday season – enjoy the materialism, but remember the meaning behind it.  Take that extra moment to explain the meaning of your holiday to your children.  Tell your spouse, sibling, or loved one how much they mean to you and how important it is to spend time with them. 

Let's allow the music, decorations, and baked goods help to lift our bodies and spirits – but let's also remember that the holidays are a time for family, love, and peace for all.